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Dating a Friend – What To Look Out For

June 27, 2009 by  
Filed under Dating Tips, Featured

There are many situations where a simple friendship can become something more – having known somebody for a long time you realize how well you get on, and feel an inkling that there is something more there. It is a situation that needs to be treated with some caution, however. There is no doubt that a relationship that begins as simple friendship can go on to be absolutely fantastic. For a start, you know that you have things in common and that you can spend time together. It is easy to convince yourself that it would be even better if you took your friendship to “the next level”. It is important, however, to allow yourself to realize that it doesn’t always work out the way you would have hoped.

Numerous people have begun or tried to begin a relationship based on a close friendship and found that it did not work as they would have hoped. The “spark” between a couple is not always the same as a “spark” between two friends, although there are similarities. It is worth talking things over, honestly and maturely, and seeing if it is what you both really want. The danger when a friendship becomes a relationship, is that the relationship may end for any number of reasons and can put the friendship in jeopardy. Trying to make something great into something even better can leave you with nothing at all.

If you decide to give it a go, then it has certainly been shown that it can work wonderfully. As long as you go into it with your eyes open, it can work that way for you too.

The Disadvantages of Blind Dating – The Other Side

June 27, 2009 by  
Filed under Speed and Blind Dating

Meeting the perfect person for you is something that relies on many things. Giving the best account of your personality is a part of it, as is a sense of optimism and purpose. And as much as anything else, pure luck can make a big difference. Of course, we all have a large amount of luck in our lives. In some cases it is mostly good luck, in others it may be mostly bad. The kind of luck we have governs many things, and our dating experiences are among those things.

Luck is a part of dating, whatever branch of dating you pursue. If you go for blind dating you are relying on that spark being there when you meet up and go on a date. If you are lucky, you will find that you both enjoy the same things and you can make each other laugh or smile. If you are unlucky, then the whole evening can go like a meeting from Hell. The unfortunate part of this is that being fixed up by a friend means that you cannot be too quick to apportion blame, for fear of souring a good friendship.

The blind date also has pitfalls for the match maker. If you arrange a date for two friends, then you are creating the possibility that one of them will blame you if it goes wrong. It also puts you in an awkward position if a friend comes to you asking specifically that you arrange for them to go out with one of your friends. If that goes badly they can end up not trusting you.